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Saturday, May 22, 2010

India plane with 166 on board crashes; 8 survive








MANGALORE, India – Eight people escaped the crash of an Indian jetliner with 166 people on board that overshot a hilltop runway in southern India and plunged over a cliff, officials said. At least some of the survivors managed to jump from the wreckage just before it burst into flames.


Firefighters struggled to reach the twisted, smoking wreckage of the Boeing 737-800, which was scattered along the hillside of thick grass and trees just outside Mangalore's Bajpe airport.

But after the first few minutes, there were no more survivors to be found around what remained of the Air India Express flight from Dubai to this port city. Instead, scores of burned bodies were pulled from the blackened tangle of aircraft cables, twisted metal, charred trees and mud at the crash site. Many of the dead were strapped into their seats, their bodies burned beyond recognition.
Air India, the country's national carrier, runs inexpensive flights under the Air India Express banner to Dubai and other Middle Eastern destinations where millions of Indians are employed.
Relatives of the victims, who had been waiting at the airport for the plane's arrival, stood near the wreckage weeping.
Ummer Farook Mohammed, a survivor burned on his face and hands, said it felt like a tire burst after the plane landed. "There was a loud bang, and the plane caught fire," he said.

"The plane shook with vibrations and split into two," G.K. Pradeep, another survivor, told CNN-IBN television. He jumped out of the aircraft with four others into a pit, he said. Moments later, a large explosion set off a blaze that consumed the wreckage, he said. It was not immediately clear if all the survivors escaped in the same way.

Firefighters sprayed water and foam on the plane as others struggled to find survivors. An Associated Press photo showed two rescuers running up a hill carrying a young girl covered in foam to waiting medics. Though no details were available, the girl was believed to have died, because officials said the only female survivor was an adult.

The plane was carrying 160 passengers — all Indian — and six crew members, Air India official Anup Srivastava said. Four infants and 19 other children were among the passengers. The British pilot, who was of Serbian origin, and an Indian co-pilot were among the dead, officials said.

Employees of JAT Airways, the Serbian national carrier, identified the captain as Zlatko Glusica, 55, a Serb with a British passport who had been flying for Air India for the past three years. He had previously flown for JAT, but like many pilots had left the airline in recent years as it plunged into deep financial troubles. The JAT employees spoke on condition they not be identified, because they were not permitted to speak to the media.

By Saturday night, rescuers had pulled 158 bodies from the wreckage. The eight survivors were being treated in hospitals, the airline said.
Civil Aviation Minister Praful Patel said that conversations with the cockpit and other records showed the flight was operating normally before the touchdown.
The crash was the deadliest in India since the November 1996 midair collision between a Saudi airliner and a Kazakh cargo plane near New Delhi that killed 349 people.

Prime Minister Manmohan Singh expressed condolences and promised compensation for the families of the victims. Boeing said it was sending a team to aid in the investigation.

The crash happened about 6 a.m. when the plane tried to land at Bajpe, about 19 miles (30 kilometers) outside of Mangalore, and overshot the runway, said Srivastava, the official with the financially struggling Indian national carrier.
Scores of villagers scrambled over the hilly terrain to reach the wreckage, and began aiding in the rescue operation. Pre-monsoon rains over the past two days caused low visibility in the area, but officials differed on whether it was raining at the time of the crash.

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Friday, May 21, 2010

While most do not have enough cash to purchase a new car, a used one can be a very feasible option. However, there are certain things that one needs to consider while buying a second hand car. While the new car comes in perfect condition and does not need too much of testing, it is quite different with its older counterpart. This article will help prospective used car buyers what type of a car they need to buy and the best way to buy the second hand car.Firstly, check the car's history report. Doing so may not give you a 100 per cent warranty that the vehicle is fine. If it has a few minor black marks, it is okay to buy the car and it is that time that the history check can help. You may be able to negotiate on the payments and save some money. But, don't buy a car if it needs even minor repairs. Often this leads to spending a lot for repairs that never end.

If you are not an automobile expert, it is advisable to get the car checked by someone knowledgeable. There may be problems that you are unaware of and you can thus save a lot of money by getting them fixed beforehand or by canceling the deal.

You have already seen the car's history. Though minor problems are okay, do not buy the car if it has suffered a major accident, especially a frontal collision. You never know how many problems can arise later because of the accident.

Buy a second hand car only after you've taken it for a test drive. Go for as long a drive as you can to discover the flaws completely. Also, do not purchase a used model as soon as you see it. Take some time to research it thoroughly. While some problems are caught when the engine is cold others may be detectable only while you've driven for long.

Getting a second hand car owned by a single person and driven on highways most of the time can be great. But, don't just believe what you've heard. Research well. It may be an ex-rental, heavily abused automobile. The owner must have been one, but drivers may be many and the use too must have been very rough.

If there's just one minor thing that you dislike in a new car, it may still be worth a compromise. But, never ever settle for something like that when it comes to purchasing a used car. If there's anything negative about the car that's disturbing you, say a 'no'. If the engine seems too noisy or works as if it is in rough shape and sounds heavy, the transmission shifts harshly, some works needs to be done, or something seems to be wrong with the papers, just move on to something else.

Don't be impolite to the salesperson. Be persistent but not impolite. Most of them are genuinely nice people and they are very good when you are good to them. In the end, it is you who need the best second car.





Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Self-Confidence - What You Need to Know




  • To achieve success you must believe in yourself. However, it does not mean that you have no limitations. It means that you are to take a discovery of yourself, find out what qualities you have that are strong and useful and then organize these qualities into an action plan with the goal you desire. To succeed, you must have faith in your own abilities to do whatever you make up your mind to do.


  • Self-confidence is an unseen force which coaxes, drives, or leads on and on until the goal becomes a reality. People without self-confidence lack the ability to act on their plans. They do not believe that acting will change anything about their lives. To them, action is worthless. If there is no point in acting, there is no point in taking risks or doing anything else to upset the status quo of their lives. Therefore they trap themselves in an endless cycle of demonstrating to themselves that nothing ever gets any better. Maxwell Maltz once say: " Of all the traps and pitfalls of life, self-disesteem is the deadliest and the hardest to overcome, for it is a pit designed and dug by out own hands, summed up in the phrase, it is no use, I cannot do it."


  • Action-oriented self-confidence is the willingness to accept risk and failure while believing that you are ultimately pursuing an attainable and worthy goal. You need to push yourself to do things you have not done before, and by doing so, you increase your ability to act self-confidently. With greater self-confidence, you will able to reach for higher goals and to make progress toward what you desire in your life.

The 7 Habits of Highly Happy People


Highly happy people all share happy habits. It’s as simple as that. The happiest people I know share 7 very obvious habits. If you’re looking to expand your general happiness you may consider adopting these habits in your own life.


Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.

-Abraham Lincoln-




  1. Be a Part of Something You Believe In – This could be anything. People may take an active role in their local city council, find refuge in religious faith, join a social club supporting causes they believe in, or find passion in their careers. In each case the physiological outcome is the same. They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in. This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives.

  2. Share Time with Friends and Family – A happy life is a life shared with friends and family. The stronger the personal relationships are and the higher the frequency of interaction, the happier a person will be

  3. Reflect on the Good – Quite often people concentrate too much of their attention on negative outcomes and leave no time to positively reflect on their successes. It’s natural for a person to want to correct undesirable circumstances and focus closely on doing so, but there must be a healthy balance in the allocation of personal awareness. It is important to mindfully reflect on the good while striving diligently to correct the bad. A continuous general awareness of your daily successes can have a noticeably positive affect on your overall emotional happiness

  4. Exploit the Resources You DO Have Access To – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it.

  5. Create Happy Endings Whenever Possible – The power of endings is quite remarkable. The end of any experience has a profound impact on a person’s overall perception of the experience as a whole. Think about reading a fairly well written, thought provoking novel. Now imagine the ending totally sucks. Even if the story was captivating up until the ending, would you still be happy recommending the novel to a friend? People always remember the ending. If the ending is happy, the experience creates happiness. Always tie loose ends, leave things on a good note, and create happy endings in your life whenever possible.

  6. Use Personal Strengths to Get Things Done – Everyone possesses unique personal strengths. We all have different talents and skill sets. Emotional happiness comes naturally to those who use their strengths to get things done. The state of completion always creates a sense of achievement. If this achievement is based exclusively on your own personal ability to get the job done, the physiological rewards are priceless.

  7. Savor the Natural Joy of Simple Pleasures – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love. Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.

Tip - Never walk alone :-)








Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Do You Know the 5 Most Popular Wedding Rings?

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Wedding band is the most important part of the occasion. It symbolizes love, care and commitment.The most popular choices in wedding rings are:

1. Tungsten rings: This is a new brand. It is also the best. It is tried and tested on wedding rings for its cheap price and longevity. People prefer tungsten band because of its durability. Traditional jewelry is expensive and also hard to maintain. Wedding/engagement rings made of tungsten carbide is extremely strong and it can withstand any blow of time. Besides it hardly looses its shine sheen and polish. Look of tungsten bands is as close as the expensive rings like gold and platinum. You can even opt for different styles in tungsten rings like

• Single stripe tungsten bands

• Two grooves bands

• Plain and polished bands

• Single groove tungsten bands

2. Diamonique Rings: It is a brand name in itself. It is widely considered to be the best. Diamonique jewelry is considered for gemstone. Besides quality, you get style and beautifully crafted stunning quality stones that have exquisite settings. Few of the most popular demands are as follows
• Solitaire ring: Simple yet elegant, placed on white gold, platinum and yellow gold, the solitaire is just perfect if you are planning to surprise your wife with a gift that is as gorgeous as this ring. It is available at prices that are widely affordable by most of the people. It only cost about under $200. Diamonique 100 facet solitaire ring,
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especially in white or 14k yellow gold is most popular.
• Epiphany Diamonique rings: Epiphany Diamonique rings are made of platinum. It is also made on 14K gold bands. This oval cut ring has a stone at the center and small beads around on the entire band. Beautiful yet signature style of Diamonique.

• Sterling silver ring: The silver piece of Diamonique engagement ring is the most precious. It is beautifully styled with several intersecting bands that are anchored together around a tension-set cubic zirconia. What grabs your attention is the stone that's brilliantly cut and set right within it. Its price is something around $50.00
3.Celtic rings: Celtic rings are popular in wedding. It's a right balance between the expression called love and also the price that associated with its quality. Celtic bands carry significance. It symbolizes culture, foundation and expression of wedding. It is made on gold, white gold, platinum, silver, etc. Two patterns of knots are popular among couples.

• Circular knot patterns
• Angular knots

4. Diamond rings: Diamond studded rings as well as solitaire diamond rings are popular wedding bands. According to price you can have different rings and setting of diamonds. Diamond rings look pretty on platinum and gold mostly. Sometimes other gems are associated with it as well.

5. Gold rings: Lastly gold wedding rings. It is the most obvious choice for all and you can have both white gold as well as yellow gold.Find most popular wedding ring for your loved ones for the one and only best occasion of your lifetime










Self Improvement

Confidence Perceived As Arrogance
Think 1 minute - Once upon a time........................................................
That is an interesting title I think. I have been working on writing this one post for over a week now. I have been trying to ensure that I don’t write in anger, haste or to harm.

Last week while working with a colleague who I am still trying to understand our working relationship, I was totally caught off guard by a comment that was made. The comment was in reference to a rumor that was in the mix about something I had possible stated. I was very quick to quelsh the rumor and ensure this person that I no way made the statements referred to in said rumor and assured the person of where I stood on their role in an specific area of service. Later that day in a working meeting I mentioned to a couple other staff members the said rumor to assure them that if they heard it to stop it in it’s tracks. Rumors are a vile communication and can tear teams apart if not dealt with head on. Well the fun keeps right on rolling at this point. I was then informed in the that there are more that this first colleague whom I supposedly was spreading rumors about feels that I am arrogant. At this point I was floored.

I have never thought of myself as arrogant and to hear that someone perseves me that way was almost crushing. I went through lots of emotions from being sad, crushed, hurt, pissed, pity… I have spent some time away from the situation in prayer and with very close advisers and have resolved this in my heart and I am now to the place where I can write it.

I am a confident person who attempts to walk humbly. I am not afraid to make mistakes while at the same time fear failure. For place of responsibility, I have to make well informed but sometime on the spot decisions and I don’t fear this. If the decision turns out to be the wrong one we correct the issue and learn from the mistake. I am not one that will sit for hours with a committee to make a decision that I feel confident in making under my areas of responsibility. In all of this I attempt to do it with humility. I know there are times in which I have failed and will fail in the future. So that is who I am.

If you are perceiving someone to be arrogant, close the loop with them personally and directly… you might be dealing with a confident person and if so ensure they are serving humbly and for the right reasons. I am still working to cycle back and close the loop with my colleague, they are an amazing person whom I know I still have some things to learn from.

Stomach Exercise To Lose Belly Fat

There is no magical gizmos or high tech gadgets to help you get your abdominal muscle. You have to exercise to flatten stomach and get a lean, defined six-pack. Your dream of getting a sexy body with flat and trim abs is within your reach! Sculpt up with lower abdomen exercise and get rid of those love handles with exercise. Here is how!

Stomach Muscle Exercise
A good abdominal workout program requires high intensity muscular overload and an increase in intensity progressively. Stomach exercise must be performed carefully so that the lower back is supported properly

Stomach exercise can help build the entire abdomen region because the upper and lower abdominals are not separated and are connected. Of course, there are some stomach exercises that can help build and strengthen specifically the lower and upper abdominal muscles. Abdominal exercises can help you also gain strong stomach muscles and back muscles. This can reduce the likelihood of back pains and provide protection against injury by efficient response to stress.


Lets have a deeper look into the muscles in the abdominal area. The Rectus abdominals is the muscle that stretches down the stomach from your ribs to the hips. The external and internal oblique run down the sides of the waist and their job is to rotate the torso and assist the abdominals during curling and twisting movements.

Stomach exercises are needed to tone or harden the muscles in that area. Not only that, the layer of body fat that is covering the abs must be burn off and this could be only done with proper eating plan. Try to increase your protein intake and limit your carbohydrates, eating a low carbohydrate diet is said to be one way of tackling flabby abs along with a sensible abs exercise routine, strength training and cardio exercise.

Stomach exercise - Stomach exercise must be followed religiously and is all about frequency rather than intensity. No exercise must be continued if it leads to pain or extreme discomfort. The best stomach exercise program can also help you achieve a flat and tight stomach. Many an abs exercise can be performed on the floor. Like any other muscles, the abdominal muscles will react to resistance training like bicep curls and crunches. A simple pelvic tilt performed while sitting in a chair can strengthen your abdominal muscles and help support the back.


Best Stomach Exercises

Crunch-Lay on your back and knees bent, lift your shoulders off the floor. The emphasis is on moving the ribs towards the hips.

Reverse Cur
l Lay on your back, bend your knees towards the chest. Keep the hips on the floor. Contract your abdominal muscles at the same time. Your lower abdominal exercise program must include reverse curls.


Leg raise

Single leg raise involves raising one leg from the floor. The double leg raise involves raising both legs from the floor at the same time and this works as an abdominal muscle exercise. Lying leg raises are ideal lower abdominal exercise



Abs exercise with the ball

The stability ball is an effective training device for the abs and lower back. Due to the curve of the exercise ball, the lower abdominal muscles get trained better on account of the greater range of motion.



Bicycle

It was ranked the best abdominal exercise by the American Council on Exercise. When performed with the abs muscles pulled, this exercise does great things for you.

Plank
For this exercise program, you need to position yourself for a pushup and hold the pose. Ensure that your body is in one long, straight line from head to toes.


Captains chair

This abs exercise involves standing on a gym chair and gripping the handholds. Press your back against the head pad and slowly lift your knees towards your chest. The back must remain straight.

Postnatal stomach exercise
A lot of women just cannot wait to get back in shape after childbirth. But before they can participate in any postnatal weight loss exercise program, they have to consult their doctor first. Pelvic tilts and simple abs contractions are an ideal way to start on a postnatal lower abdomen exercise program. Combined with Kegels exercise, you can get your pelvic floor muscles back in shape. Isometric contractions can even be practiced with the baby on your stomach. Stick to a steady lower abs exercise program and watch the flabby skin harden.


Stomach exercise to flatten stomach

Getting a lean defined six-pack abs is a dream for most of us. Millions of dollars are spent yearly in the process of achieving a flat stomach and trim waistline. There are many gadgets that are sold to those seeking an exercise program getting the stomach fat down.

The first step towards a lean waist and flat stomach is to remove the fat that sits on the abs. A combination of cardiovascular exercise program coupled with a low fat diet aimed at preventing fat can do wonders. Stomach exercise program would include the following:

Forward flexion exercises such as sit-ups and crunches.

Rotational exercises such as trunk rotations and standing twists


Stomach Exercise for love handle

Love handles are a misnomer, as all women would love to shun them. Love handles are the ugly fat belts around the waist. This lump of flesh starts at the side of the bra-line and extends all the way down the back. Aerobic exercise aimed at this region can help you shed those love handles. Exercise for love handles involve exercising the oblique muscles to tighten up the sides of the waist. Abs crunches could also do the same.


Here is an easy stomach exercise for the oblique that you can do at home.

Sit upright with a stick across the back of your shoulders. Twist from side to side. Side bends also work wonders on love handles. Keep at it and watch these muscles firm into place.

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Keeping the Romance Alive Within Family Relationship

Are you married or do you currently live with you partner? For many couples, marriage or cohabitation, often spells trouble for many relationships. While there are a number of different reasons for the cause of this common issue, it's often attributed to a lack of romance. To help you keep your relationship with your live-in partner or your husband going strong, it is important to keep the romance in your relationship alive.

As nice as it's to hear that you should keep the romance alive in your relationship, you possibly wondering exactly how you should go just about doing so. When creating romance in your relationship, it's important to know that not all couples are the same. For that reason, you may want to keep your partner’s wants, needs, or interests in mind. This is another key to having a happy and healthy relationship, compromise.

One of the best ways to keep romance alive in a relationship is actually quite simple concept. That concept is affection. Unfortunately, many couples put on a groove where they just become comfortable with their daily life. This often leads many couples not to hold hands anymore, kiss, or even discuss their day. It's important that you do not let your relationship progress to this point, as it often spells trouble. As often as possible, you'll want to express your love and appreciation for your live-in partner or spouse, both in action and in words.

It's also important to go out of your house. As with showing affection, many couples, after a period of time, stop getting out on dates. Whenever you get a free evening, you may want to consider going along a date. What is nice about dates is that just close to any activity can be considered a date. For instance, you can go away to dinner, see a movie, or go have a couple of drinks at a local bar. All of these activities can be considered as a date. Social interaction, both with one another and with other couples, is important to the health of a relationship. For that reason, you and your partner should get around and socialize.

As previously stated, a relationship is all about compromise. Compromise is also aside to keep the romance alive in your relationship. As compatible as you and you partner or spouse may be, you may still have a few differences. Often, these differences show on date nights. When it comes to keeping a date or just doing a simple activity with your partner, it's advised that you comprise as often as possible. This may include having alternate date nights. For case, if your husband wanted to attend a baseball game, you can agree to do so, as long as he agrees to go the movies with you next time.

As outlined above, there are a number of different ways that you can approach keeping the romance alive in your relationship. As difficult as love and romance may seem, it's important that you put forth the extra effort. Not feeling enough support is an issue that the two of you can resolve, but divorce may not be. That's why it's important to not let it begin to that point.
Tip - There is no perfect people

Love and Marriage: Do They Have To Go Together?


In the past when people fell in love they usually courted one another or dated for awhile and then would become engaged, and would finally marry. This has been accepted as the standard for a very long time but now we are living in a much more liberal society where marriage and relationships are concerned and many are questioning if love and marriage always have to go together. Some find that they want marriage while others find that they can enjoy the love without having the marriage.

Some Want the Legality of Marriage
Many say the reason that you get married is to "make it legal" but others say that marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper saying that you belong to one another. It's true, when you are in a relationship that is bound together by a legal marriage little may actually change about the relationship other than a piece of paper that says that you are legally married. But, some like the idea that they are bound together legally. Some couples feel as though making it legal is making a statement to the world that they are ready to take that step because they know that they are right together while others simply like the security in knowing that someone cannot simply just walk away from the relationship. Making a relationship legal is a show of solidarity to some, while others believe that it cheapens their relationship.

Tradition Rings True
Many men and women simply want to stick with tradition. They meet, they fall in love, they want to be together, so they get married and that makes sense to them. There is nothing wrong with keeping with tradition if it makes sense to you and to a lot of people they simply continue with what their parents, grandparents, and great grandparents all did. It's not about legality as much as it is about societal standards and what you do when you love someone.

It Doesn't Have to Be That Way
Many couples are proving that love and marriage do not always have to go hand in hand. While some like the idea of making it legal and like to carry on with family tradition, others don't like the idea of marriage and traditions and they do away with them. There are millions of couples living together right now that are happy and in love and simply feel no need to prove those things with a wedding or a marriage. It works for them, and their relationship will likely last as long as those that get married. There are many couples out there that never get married and stay together, faithfully, all of their lives.

Marriage and love do not have to go together, there are examples everywhere you look. Whether you get married is really a personal preference, as it doesn't change the relationship. It just changes the legal status. If tradition and legal status are important to you, than a marriage is called for and can be a very special thing. If you are happy with your relationship the way it is and you see no need, then carry on! To each his own! Love is a very individual experience, and so too is the need to get married.

Tips - think a minute to change our lives

What to Do After Infidelity Has Been Discovered


Some Do’s and Don’ts

This section is designed to give the reader a place to start when faced with infidelity and will:
Suggest “3 choices” open to the person who has been betrayed;
Share a letter from a sufferer and an answer from a trained therapist;
Raise the questions that need to be faced and dealt with to move beyond the affair;
Offer advice to the person who has been unfaithful about what to do and not to do.
3 ChoicesAfter discovering the infidelity you have three choices:
  • to divorce
  • to deny that anything needs to be done
  • to work on healing the situation.

Unfortunately, although there are a limited number of possibilities, it is not easy to decide what to do. While there are no set answers to “what should I do?” there are several excellent suggestions in a response to a letter Someone. These serve as a good beginning when first handling the situation of infidelity.

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A Note to - “the Faithful Wife” (Someone from X)

I am a 43 year old woman and have two children who are 10 and 6 years old. I just found out that my husband has been cheating on me. I am angry and confused. What should I do? Should I divorce him? One of my friends says I should divorce him and take him for every thing he has. My sister has stayed with her husband for 15 years and she knows that her husband has had several affairs. If she can stick it out, shouldn’t I be able to? If I stay with him, can I ever trust him? He is a good father, a good provider and up until now, a good husband. I am so hurt I don’t know what to do. Please help me.

Dear Mary,
Perhaps the biggest betrayal a person could ever experience is discovering a spouse is cheating. Your emotions of confusion, hurt, and anger are normal and understandable. Those who haven’t experienced the pain of infidelity can never understand what you are going through. It shakes us to our very core.

Tips-Intelligent self-governance

  • Don’t feel compelled to do anything immediately and don’t rush into a decision to stay or leave the marriage. Both healing and divorce are a process. You may feel a sense of urgency, but don’t act on it.
  • Find people you can trust, such as a family member, friend, or member of the clergy. You need to develop a support system of people you can talk to. Select people who care about you and do not have a grudge. For instance, people who are angry with their own partner or who have suffered through their own tough times may not be a good choice. Your supporter’s role is to listen and help you with whatever course you take.
  • Find a therapist. If you needed heart surgery you would look for a heart surgeon. Find a therapist who will help you think through both the options of continuing the relationship or divorce and help you sort out the answers in your heart. Just going back into the relationship will not solve the underlying problems. Divorcing badly will cause additional damage to the children and will be expensive. In this emotional jungle you need a professional to guide you through the terrain.

A Suggestion for the Unfaithful Partner


As for a suggestion to the unfaithful partner, it is important to avoid the common yet dangerous suggestion to “pick up the pieces and “leave the past behind.”
Some unfaithful partners after admitting their shame may say things like, “Let’s not open up old wounds” or, “Let’s give it some time to heal.” Studies of thousands of couples who have struggled with the issue of infidelity tell us that the “let’s-go-on-from-here” strategy is rarely successful in bringing couples together. The idea here is not to go back to the “business as usual” model of your relationship. Something wasn’t working in your relationship and that sowed the seeds for dissatisfaction and ultimately getting involved with another person. If you wish to continue your marriage you must understand and correct the “something” that wasn’t working. Often times that something was mutual and both of you may have been dissatisfied with the relationship.
In addition, your partner will need to understand what was going on with you and will need to feel secure that the unfaithfulness will not happen again. He/she may need to hear the details, know your whereabouts on a regular basis and have access to your phone bills and bank accounts. Your partner will need reassurance and verification but in the process, you may feel hemmed in and frustrated. In addition, your partner may have periodic attacks of anger and distrust for what seems like no reason at all.
This will be a tough time for both of you. It may take 6 months or even a year for things to feel like they are in balance. If your marriage is to work it will take patience on both of your parts. First, you must figure out if it is worth it to you to put a tremendous effort in the saving of your marriage. Does your love for your spouse, children, and the family, along with the financial aspects, make it worth the effort or is finding another partner while being married a wake-up call that you need something/someone else in your life?
It is best to have professional help under these circumstances, someone who can lend calmness, reason and guidelines as to the best steps to take. Regardless of whether you stay together, it is important to move carefully to avoid a bad situation from getting even worse.

Remember - life is not always beautiful

How to Choose a Suitable Job?


To find the right job for you, you'll need to figure out what type of person you are, and what your interests are. For many jobs available, you will need the proper training or education. Most employers require at least a High School diploma, and some require a College Degree. However, a lot of jobs do offer on the job training, which would enable you to apply for that particular field. Try to match your personality, interests, knowledge, and age, with a position suitable for you. Don't be afraid to venture out and try new things.

(Brader Jeff)

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  • Consider a position in the medical, dental or pharmaceutical field if you are friendly and outgoing and educated or trained in this field. Other similar jobs include receptionist, cashier, waitress/waiter, or salesperson.

  • If you desire such a medical professional position but lack the education, be prepared for several years' school and high tuition bills. If you make it through, though, you're pretty much guaranteed a job whenever and wherever you want, with a very pretty paycheck.

  • Check out being a sample model, or cosmetic salesperson if you are friendly and attractive. You never know how far you can go with a great smile.

  • Try out creative professions if you've got that innovative streak. These could include something in the arts, flower arranging, interior decorating, etc. If you are creative and love to cook, a job in the culinary arts could be for you (you could also start your own catering business).

  • Embrace your energetic-side by getting involved as an exercise teacher, personal trainer, or coach. Check-out your local YMCA for options.

  • Seek out a more solitary job position if you are shy or moody. For example, driving a truck, plumbing, roofing, house painting, housekeeping, and so forth. There are many job positions that you can try.

  • Get into a management position if you consider yourself to be a take-charge sort of person. There are a wide range of positions to choose from...search the help wanted ads.

  • Become a teacher or caretaker, if you like being around children or the elderly. Normally, there are always positions available in those particular fields.

  • 9If you enjoy designing things, you may want to become a draftsman, or go to school to become an engineer. You may want to check some schools out that offer night classes, since most people are busy during the day.


TIPS



  • Consider trying a few 'personality type' tests such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). Many free online versions can be found on the web.

  • When applying for a job that involves typing, do not let the fact that you can not type a hundred words a minute scare you off, if that is the case. There are many office jobs that require little typing, and look for accuracy over speed... invoicing doesn't require a lot of speed.

  • you are currently unemployed, consider working for a 'Temporary Agency'; you can get paid while trying out new types of jobs and working environments.

  • Be willing to try different things; plus think seriously about what type of job suits you. Think of others while you are evaluating yourself; don't put having a personality disorder off on others.

  • When you are seeking a job position that you have never tried, be sure to let your new employer know that you are eager to learn.

  • If you are good at design work, you may want to seek out a field that you can exercise that... such as putting together catalogues, or doing paste up work. Search around to see what’s out there. You may possibly want to try designing your own greeting cards, sitting at home at your kitchen table... it's been done before.

  • If you are good at drawing, then maybe try your luck at cartoon drawings and send them off to places like Readers' Digest, or Woman's World Magazine... you never know until you try.

  • If you are fond of writing, there are endless ways to use that skill. Start with getting a Writers Market. You can go to the library if you choose not to buy one; but keep in mind that the library's books are a few years old.

  • You can take a very limited education and do wonders with it. On the other hand, you can take the best education that money can buy and do nothing. You can always build on the foundation that is laid, if you have the right spirit.

  • It takes all types of people doing all sorts of different jobs to maintain the world in which we live. We can all take pride in earning an honest dollar.

  • If you like dressing-up and looking pretty and have good office skills, by all means, give office work a try. If you like working with numbers, bookkeeping may possibly be perfect for you.

  • If you're a "hothead," you may want to get into Boxing, or join the Military Service. That should work some of that out of you.

  • If you should choose to go into house cleaning; it is best to start out by going to work for an established Maid Service to learn the ropes, before venturing out on your own. Naturally, your pay will be less than if you are keeping all the profits. However, the Maid Service will furnish the supplies, instead of you. The pay is good in any case, all you need is the energy.

  • If you enjoy polishing and caring for your own nails, you may be interested in becoming a Manicurist or "Nail Technician," to fancy the term up. Check out a directory for Beauty Schools by searching the Internet or telephone directory.

  • You may be a person that enjoys applying makeup, kind of like an art form. If so, being a Makeup Artist may be "right up your alley." Once again, search under Beauty Schools on the Internet for classes. If you enjoy working with skin, search under Cosmetology. You could end up doing makeup for somebody famous, you never can tell, can you?

  • If you love to dance, it is possible that with a little training, you could become a teacher of dance. You could even end up with your own Dance Studio, who knows?

  • There's money to be made in Arts and Crafts, if you are skilled in that area. A person can sell their items at a Flea Market. Or in regards to selling your items, there are many other avenues to take. You can often place items in consignment and thrift shops. If you are good with computers, you can create your own Internet sales web site.

  • If you speak very clearly and are easy to understand, you may enjoy Public Speaking.

  • Ref. to step #8; A Draftsman needs special tools, the same as a Painter needs an Easel, or a Model needs a Portfolio. Therefore, a good place to search for great buys on tools is to surf the Internet... and be sure to check-out eBay.

Note: This Article was written to represent all our workers, regardless of what job position they may have. They all help to make our lives better. Their hard work is very appreciated.

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